A Husband and Son Humiliate Mom, Treating Her Like a Servant, and Later Beg Forgiveness on Their Knees
Hello everyone, my name is Samantha, and I’d want to share a tale that I think will inspire other married and unmarried women. See, I work as a steamfitter and have been in a supervisory job for a long, therefore I get incentives and bonuses.
Aside from all of these extra bonuses, I was earning more than $100 each hour! However, earning so much required me to work outside of town, which I only began doing after our son, Terry, was old enough to care for himself under my husband’s supervision.
“It was as if overnight, he donned the cloak of patriarchy, echoing the archaic sentiments of his colleagues,” I reflected, astounded by how rapidly things might change.What made matters worse for me was that he enjoyed throwing things around, causing havoc in the kitchen before simply resting down on the couch! However, what bothered me the most was when our son began COPYING him! Knowing how hectic my work schedule was and wanting some tranquility at home, I asked my husband to hire a cleaner, but he surprised me by saying, “NO! “That’s your job!” I was furious and annoyed by his new behavior, and I told him that in that case, I would not pay for anything because it was his job!Last Saturday, I was at home with Terry, and after supper, he got up without cleaning up. My son, a reflection of his father’s growing scorn, questioned me. His words, as sharp as knives, pierced through the silence: “Clean this up and wash it.” He expected me to clean up not only the mess, but also the shreds of my dignity. I EXPLODED and answered with a voice trembling with wrath. “Young man, believe me, you will apologize and clean up after yourself!” His response was a cold, planned echo of his father’s instructions:
Because I earned so much, our retirement savings grew, and we were able to spend money on ourselves and our children. I assumed everything was fine between my husband and myself, and he made no specific expectations of me. However, a few years ago, things began to change for Ben. I believe it has something to do with his growing influence at work. See, my husband works with a group of sexist males who regard women as service providers.T heir influence on Ben became clear in our fifth year of marriage, when he began teasing me for not doing enough cleaning! He’d changed his look to me as a servant rather than a partner, despite the fact that I too work and earn more than him!Our marriage, once a symphony of shared dreams and mutual respect, has deteriorated into a string of expectations and dismissals.